
Remembering many years ago when I was watching a comedy, cant quite remember the name but I remember Sheryl Lee Ralph as an actress saying, If you cannot be a Doctor, marry a Doctor! Well, I actually had set my sights on being a Doctor. My best friend and I at the time had our futures planned: get the grades, go to Med School, live happily ever after. Well, me with my roving spirit somehow got sidelined and now years later here I'm with the JD and a chaotic (but at times fun) restaurant life. And no, I did not marry a Doctor!
Oh well! So now it begs the question, if I cannot be the ultimate Chef, should I marry a Chef? Perhaps not a 'marriage' of sorts, but something more like a partnership. With that in mind, for the past 2 weeks or so I've been digging into my past and present for friends or friends of friends who know, knew or could possibly know someone who would want to partner with me. Ok, partnership may be a tall order for someone in the very early stages of a restaurant so perhaps a mentor would be something more appropriate.
I myself having mentored and knowing the value of such, thought that was the answer to the current state of my affairs. So a couple of days ago, I sat at a Bar in Crown Heights over a glass of merlot with tears in my eyes (i'm a very emotional being as you can tell :p) talking to my mentor-to-be. Two hours later, I learnt more than I have in the past year from the project I call Homage.
Don't want to laden you with sordid details but things like:
1. What I thought was important was NOT that important.
2. What was important was where I was NOW, not where I was going.
3. Time is precious, don't waste it, appreciate it.
4. There is a nine-out-of-ten failure rate of most start-up businesses (hard to accept)
5. Losers think losing is bad.
6. Thinking in terms of risk and reward and understanding that failure is essential to learning and success.
A lot of things that I've of course heard before but never quite took the time to understand. Now I want to pay Homage to NS, the owner of Ripe Restaurant in Mount Vernon. Today starts the rest of my life.
PS... their jerk steak is really the best ever! (www.riperestaurant.com) and bf did not marry doctor because bf became a doctor...lol





